Preparing To Be A Parent

By | 16/12/2015

Are you getting those maternal urges and thinking about having a baby?  If you are then you need to start preparing to be a parent right now.  You need to start putting your parent tool kit tool-box-152145__180together now so you  have everything packed in your toolkit before you fall pregnant.

There are six things that need to be packed and ready before your journey into parenting begins and remember once you take the first step on this journey there is no turning back.  You can’t change your mind when it gets a bit tough.  When you are kneeling with your head in the toilet and vomit in your hair you will need the stamina to get up, have a shower and wash your hair and keep going.

Today I want to tell you about what is probably the most important tool for your parent tool box.  That tool is stamina.  Every parent needs to have the energy to cope with the huge demands that are going to be placed on them by having a baby.  Remember, you are going to be carrying around inside you a developing human being.  For the first three months you could be floored with morning sickness and for the last three months of your pregnancy you will be uncomfortable and regularly kicked from the inside.

Your hormones will rampage with the wanton abandon of mischievous elves and you will swing from bursting into tears because someone said “Isn’t it a lovely day dear”, to utter joy at seeing a little teddy bear for your baby.  You have stepped onto an emotional roller coaster  that you have no control over.  That sharp, never forget anything, brain of yours will turn to mush.  Sometimes you won’t remember what day it is.  You will put things down and then not be able to find them again.  You could probably look on this as training for old age if you weren’t quite so emotional.

At the end of your tumultuous and wonderful pregnancy you will have to give birth.  Yes, it is a trying time but just look at the reward.  Your baby is the most beautiful thing you have ever laid eyes upon.  No one has ever had such a gorgeous baby and he is yours.  At this stage you will be in awe of the miracle that is your child.

Don’t think your need for stamina ends here however.  Now you must take your little miracle home and you will haveA mothers toolbox to take care of your baby on top of all your other every day chores.  You will get very little sleep in those first few months and you will spend a lot of time trying to settle and comfort your newborn when he is fretful or has colic or just won’t settle.  You would be forgiven for thinking you have tapped an underground spring when you see how many times a day you need to change his nappy.

Your baby’s first year is a busy one.  He will start to smile, get his first tooth, have his immunization injections, have his first temperature and possibly crawl and take his first step.  What a wonderful year and you need the stamina to accompany him on his busy journey and comfort him when he needs comforting.  You will have many sleepless nights when his gums are hurting or he has his first temperature but when you see that first real smile come shining through you know, every minute of it is worth it.

As I said, there are six things you need to have packed and ready in your toolkit before you have a baby and stamina is the most important.  The other tools are the confidence to know you can do it, the tolerance to deal with people who will tell you how to do everything (they don’t believe you can walk and chew gum), the patience to handle your baby’s bad times and an overabundance of enduring love.

I will write about all of these tools in my following articles so be sure to watch out for them.  Until then just remember there is help out there for you to get your baby to sleep through the night and also to help you with your toddler.

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6 thoughts on “Preparing To Be A Parent

  1. Riaz Shah

    Hey Margaret,
    I guess its true then what they say about babies, its going to take up a whole lot of time and money. My sister is going to have a baby in a couple of month and since they’r staying in my house, I would definitely need to take care of the baby as they are both busy with work.

    Helpful tips, I may need to get my stamina up and running. Out of curiosity, would it be wise if we hire a nanny to take care of the baby for us instead?

    1. admin

      Hi Riaz

      Great to get your comment. Thank you. I don’t know that a nanny is a good idea when the baby is new. This is a time for mother and baby to bond and also it is when the baby learns to recognize mum. Perhaps it would be better to hire a housekeeper to do all the other things and that way your sister to concentrate on just taking care of the baby.

      My mother always told me God never gives you more than you can handle so I am sure you will all cope with a new baby.



  2. Jaime

    Hey Margaret was going through your site and I have to say there is so much useful information on parenting. I have two girls of my own and it was really hard for me with my first one because becoming a father for the first time was nerve wrecking. I’d have to say for the fathers out there be ready and start working on your cardio and read Margaret’s blogs because she knows what she’s saying. Happy Holiday’s Margaret!

    1. admin

      Hi Jaime,

      Becoming a parent for the first time is scary. You wonder how will you cope, will you be able to take care of this baby and teach it all it needs to learn to be a good person. It is a huge responsibility and it weights heavily on new parents.

      You need a lot characteristics to be a parent but it is a comfort to know we have all been developing these characteristics all our lives.

      congratulations on your new little girl and best wishes to your family.


  3. Øssur Eysturoy

    Hi Margaret.
    Great post. Your a good and captivating writer, and you are obviously talking from experience.
    I am a father of three, and obviously I can’t say that I have endured the morning sickness, odd cravings and hormonal havoc, but from that moment my children were born, I was just as overwhelmed by that loving feelin’ as my wife. What a change, and who would ever have foreseen the joy of changing a diaper? And when that little bundle of joy smiles at you…

    You took me right back to those days.
    Thank you.

    1. Margaret Kennedy Post author

      Thank you for your comment and your kind words. I was definitely speaking from experience and I believe there is no greater joy than that moment when you see and hold your baby for the first time.

      Can’t say the diaper changing rated high on my joy meter but that first smile makes up for everything. A baby’s smile truly lights up a parents world doesn’t it?

      My very best wishes to you and your family.



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