Are you getting those maternal urges and thinking about having a baby? If you are then you need to start preparing to be a parent right now. You need to start putting your parent tool kit together now so you have everything packed in your toolkit before you fall pregnant.
There are six things that need to be packed and ready before your journey into parenting begins and remember once you take the first step on this journey there is no turning back. You can’t change your mind when it gets a bit tough. When you are kneeling with your head in the toilet and vomit in your hair you will need the stamina to get up, have a shower and wash your hair and keep going.
Today I want to tell you about what is probably the most important tool for your parent tool box. That tool is stamina. Every parent needs to have the energy to cope with the huge demands that are going to be placed on them by having a baby. Remember, you are going to be carrying around inside you a developing human being. For the first three months you could be floored with morning sickness and for the last three months of your pregnancy you will be uncomfortable and regularly kicked from the inside.
Your hormones will rampage with the wanton abandon of mischievous elves and you will swing from bursting into tears because someone said “Isn’t it a lovely day dear”, to utter joy at seeing a little teddy bear for your baby. You have stepped onto an emotional roller coaster that you have no control over. That sharp, never forget anything, brain of yours will turn to mush. Sometimes you won’t remember what day it is. You will put things down and then not be able to find them again. You could probably look on this as training for old age if you weren’t quite so emotional.
At the end of your tumultuous and wonderful pregnancy you will have to give birth. Yes, it is a trying time but just look at the reward. Your baby is the most beautiful thing you have ever laid eyes upon. No one has ever had such a gorgeous baby and he is yours. At this stage you will be in awe of the miracle that is your child.
Don’t think your need for stamina ends here however. Now you must take your little miracle home and you will have to take care of your baby on top of all your other every day chores. You will get very little sleep in those first few months and you will spend a lot of time trying to settle and comfort your newborn when he is fretful or has colic or just won’t settle. You would be forgiven for thinking you have tapped an underground spring when you see how many times a day you need to change his nappy.
Your baby’s first year is a busy one. He will start to smile, get his first tooth, have his immunization injections, have his first temperature and possibly crawl and take his first step. What a wonderful year and you need the stamina to accompany him on his busy journey and comfort him when he needs comforting. You will have many sleepless nights when his gums are hurting or he has his first temperature but when you see that first real smile come shining through you know, every minute of it is worth it.
As I said, there are six things you need to have packed and ready in your toolkit before you have a baby and stamina is the most important. The other tools are the confidence to know you can do it, the tolerance to deal with people who will tell you how to do everything (they don’t believe you can walk and chew gum), the patience to handle your baby’s bad times and an overabundance of enduring love.
I will write about all of these tools in my following articles so be sure to watch out for them. Until then just remember there is help out there for you to get your baby to sleep through the night and also to help you with your toddler.