As a new mum you will have thought a lot about the best way to parent you child but have you ever
considered Attachment Parenting. What is Attachment Parenting? It is a new and unique way to raise your child that is being practiced by many European families.
This mission statement was copied from the attachment website at http://www.attachmentparenting.org
What is different about Attachment Parenting.
Where did this method of parenting come from?
The attachment parenting system was developed by American Pediatrician William Sears. German actress, Frauke Ludwing, is an advocate of attachment parenting and said recently in Hamburg “parents fear overindulging their child”. she also runs courses where she encourages parents to show full, unreserved support. Her claim is that the more attention a parent pays their child will result in a more mentally stable and self confident child.
There are numerous blogs and forums where parents share and discuss their positive feelings and results of attachment parenting.
Attachment parents shield their child from any disappointment or adverse feelings and want to have a child that is happy all the time. To them the child is a partner and friend.
Different strokes for different folks.
While it is a fact that every child needs an attachment figure to enable them to develop, it is also a fact that the child is not the only one in this relationship. Parents also have needs and this is something every child needs to learn. The needs of the parent do not seem to figure at all in this form of parenting. It is exclusively about the child.
If children are sheltered from the moment they are born how will they cope when they come face to face with reality for the first time? Children need to learn how to cope with difficulties while they are still safe in the care of their parents. It is too late when they go to school and are bullied by their peers.
Children of parents who use the attachment parenting system are not learning how to cope with disappointment.
Attachment parenting place a huge load on the parents, particularly on mum. Women have fought hard for rights that this form of parenting completely ignores. It ties women to parenting and pushes them back into the traditional role their parents and grandparents fought to free them from.
There is more than one way to raise a child and all of them have merit. A lot of things go into the decision on how to parent your child and it should always take into account the needs of both the child and the parent.
There will be many parents who will see a lot of merit in the attachment parenting system and just as many who will dismiss it as nonsense. For me I see this system as setting a child up for ultimate failure.
Children are precious and as parents we have the responsibility of giving them the skills to cope in the real world not to lead them to believe that life is a Utopian dream.
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My very best wishes to you and your wonderful family